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Balancing Work, Family, and Self-Care: A Month in the Life of Me

Living with MND is somedays tough, other days I forget I have a life limiting illness. The last 6 weeks I have been away from my full time job because things came to a head and a sudden realisation that work had masked many of my thoughts and emotions since diagnosis in March 2022. I realised that I needed to disconnect and spend time working on me. MND started to control my life and that wasn’t a healthy balance. I needed to live without a constant reminder and that there is life outside of MND. It was everywhere I looked and I needed to impose barriers so my social feeds weren’t all MND related.


I wanted to share this blog with you to show how much there is often to contend with on a daily basis. I’m learning to adapt and that there is life outside my illness so that I try to maintain a healthy balance. I’ll still be posting but I’m making sure that it's not all serious. So expect some dodgy dad dancing videos and Christmas content amongst other highlights!


Almost every service I engage with has an application or referral process which often requires forms to be completed or evidence of my illness and disability. Huge amounts of time is spent most days in trying to navigate all of this. There are often huge waiting times (currently 9 months for our wet room to be renovated with no end in sight). I am unable to type on my Macbook as my arms and hands have limited mobility and therefore use head control to type on the on-screen keyboard and dictate speech-to-text. What would ‘normally’ take 5/10 minutes to type an email may take me 30 minutes, per email, using the head control.


I wanted to share an insight into a typical month and kept a note during August 2024 of daily life.


Thursday 1st

  • Worked 9am to 7pm

  • Carer visit to shower and dress me along with preparation of a meal and to feed me

  • Call with Doctors regarding wheelchair application form that was sent to them in mid June which they didn’t action. Very frustrating!


Friday 2nd

  • Worked 9am to 6pm

  • Carer visit


Saturday 3rd

  • Carer visit

  • Best mate visited and had a lovely catch up

  • Spent time watching the olympics with Little Man


Sunday 4th

  • Carer visit

  • Sister helped set up my new Rayban Meta glasses!


Monday 5th

  • Non-working day (NWD)

  • Carer visit

  • Call to hospital to arrange patient ambulance for this Thursday - respiratory unit check up

  • Shopping trip in the afternoon

  • Email to Occupational Therapist (OT) re a pillow riser and fall cushion.

  • Email to MND Coordinator, Kelly re rearranging a therapy session next Monday.


Tuesday 6th

  • Worked 9 - 7

  • Carer visit

  • Email sent re neater eater appt tomorrow.


Wednesday 7th

  • Worked 9 - 7

  • Carer visit

  • Neater Eater demo.

  • Kelly visited for a catch-up.

  • Patient Ambulance canceled for appt tomorrow as they had been appointed incorrectly!

  • Multiple calls to hospital re the above

  • Emails received from OT to acknowledge lifting cushion and electronic pillow riser being ordered.


Thursday 8th

  • Worked 9 - 7

  • Carer visit

  • Several calls received from hospital as appointment cancelled.

  • Visit from council surveyor to measure up for external ramp.

  • Emails received from consultant and details of next neurologist appt.

  • Tel call received to arrange delivery of new equipment

  • Tel call from council re ongoing complaint.


Friday 9th

  • Worked 9 - 6

  • Carer visit

  • Builder visit for wet room renovation to prepare schedule of work

  • Email sent to council re ongoing complaint

  • Email sent to respiratory unit re appt to be rescheduled

  • Email quote received for Neater Eater purchase… £7,000!

  • Email sent to physiotherapist to arrange visit as I’m experiencing discomfort in my hips.


Saturday 10th

  • Carer visit

  • Aunt visited

  • All in all, a lazy day!


Sunday 11th

  • Carer visit

  • Sat outside and soaked up the sun


Monday 12th

  • NWD

  • Carer visit

  • A friend visited for coffee and cake


Tuesday 13th

  • Worked 9 - 7

  • Carer visit

  • Email received from council re recent escalation and complaint

  • CAMEL cushion delivered

  • Tel call received to schedule pillow riser delivery


Wednesday 14th

  • Worked 9 - 7

  • Carer visit

  • Pillow riser delivered

  • Email from physio to schedule visit


Thursday 15th

  • Worked 9 - 7

  • Carer visit

  • Email OT re CAMEL cushion demo.

  • Email physio to confirm appointment


Friday 16th

  • Worked 9 - 6

  • Carer visit


Saturday 17th

  • Carer visit

  • My 38th birthday - I didn’t want any fuss other than a low key day.


Sunday 18th

  • Carer visit


Monday 19th

  • NWD

  • Carer visit

  • OT visit to demonstrate CAMEL cushion so that I can safely be returned to an upright position following a fall

  • Theatre trip to London to watch Kiss Me, Kate


Tuesday 20th

  • Worked 9 - 7

  • Carer visit


Wednesday 21st

  • Worked 9 - 7

  • Carer visit

  • Physiotherapy session.

  • Email follow-up from OT


Thursday 22nd

  • Worked 9 - 7

  • Carer visit

  • Email from MND Co-ordinator re respite.


Friday 23rd

  • Worked 9 - 7

  • Carer visit


Saturday 24th

  • Carer visit


Sunday 25th - Monday 2nd

Holiday 🏖️


Some days and weeks are quieter than others but some can be extremely challenging and tiresome. I hope this gives an insight into what already is a busy life. My experience so far has taught me that there are still many hoops which have to be jumped through and there are huge amounts of unnecessary paperwork which really could be removed to make things that little bit easier!

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